Tuesday, November 23, 2010


Had a chat with my friend, Erin, the other night about friendships having a "purpose". Notably, once having moved on in a friendship, being able to recognize what that friend brought you or what you learned from them? It may seems selfish. to "get something" from a friend. But you do.

Sometimes these friends bring you to other people; important people in your life. Sometimes you learn something about yourself. You learn about others. You learn something about how you are compared to other people. You learn what you love about yourself and you learn what you don't like about yourself. Sometimes you don't figure this out until a friendship is over. And sometimes, because of past friendships, you figure out how to get over more recent-past friendships sooner. Because you realize, sometimes, there are friendships that aren't healthy. Friends you won't know forever. Friends sometimes are around for awhile before you realize their value. Realize, you WILL know them your whole life.

So, what do you get from your friends? Do you become your best around them? Because you should.

1 comment:

  1. This post reminded me of a poem I'd seen a long time ago.

    As for what I get from my friendships is laughter, love and support. I'm honored to be considered in your circle of friends, because you've given me all three time and again. Love ya, B!

    Reason, Season, or Lifetime

    People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
    When you figure out which one it is,
    you will know what to do for each person.

    When someone is in your life for a REASON,
    it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
    They have come to assist you through a difficulty;
    to provide you with guidance and support;
    to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
    They may seem like a godsend, and they are.
    They are there for the reason you need them to be.

    Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
    this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
    Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
    Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
    What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
    The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

    Some people come into your life for a SEASON,
    because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
    They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
    They may teach you something you have never done.
    They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
    Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.

    LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
    things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
    Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person,
    and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
    It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.